Blind Spots

As I approached writing my post this week I was still in reflective mode from last weeks post about how important it is to live a heart centric life for ourselves, others and for ease in dying.  My thought process led me to consider that we all have blind spots in our line of sight about ourselves that may prevent us from seeing our own shortcomings as far as being open-hearted, compassionate and giving.

In my family (and in yours too, I expect) there is quite a range of expressions and examples of how we live out our lives in varying degrees of heart availability.  Some have mastered this fine art and are openly giving, nurturing and supportive - with them we always know we are loved.  While others are more closed, reserved, even critical or judgmental - which may leave us feeling less than loved.  This range varies from person to person even within family groups.

I believe that we all can grasp the idea of being open, giving, caring, supportive and of wanting that kind of treatment ourselves, but it is in the way that we move from idea to action that has the most meaning.  In any area of our lives that we are unable to fully give the kind of compassion to those we care about that meets their need is where I believe we have our personal blind spots.  After all we are "blind" in this area for some reason that we have not as yet explored and healed.  For example, if when you were young you were treated in ways that left you doubting your own self worth you may shy away from connections and involvement where you might be hurt again.  Until this is healed you will likely not be able to see how your inability to connect with others is damaging to both you and them.

If those around us that we love the very most do not feel loved by us then we clearly have some work to do.  We came into this life journey to make some specific progress - to grow, become - fully confident that we could meet all the challenges and still keep our soul energy of peace, love and light bright.  If life has handed you twists and turns in the life story that has caused you to close your heart it is important that you take it out of your blind spot and examine what has occurred and heal it while there is time incarnate to do so.

A closed heart cannot absorb and properly feel love.  Subsequently, a heart that cannot feel love appropriately feels disconnected from the highest source of love which can cause one to have a lack of purpose or meaning for their life.

The best barometer for our heart work are those around us that we love the most - do they know it?  Do they feel it?  Do we tell them often enough? Am I inclusive with them?  Do I offer my support?  Am I showing that I am interested in them by my actions?   Does my behavior match my idea of what love is?  Would I like to be treated like I treat them?  Can I be brave enough to open my heart and give without fear of rejection or pain? To the degree that any questions about heart openness cannot be answered in the affirmative, then there is work to do.

Most of us will not experience an overnight transformation like Scrooge had in Dickens classic tale - so I believe this task is a lifelong process.   We do come into life stories and encounter difficulties that may harden our hearts and make us want to hide our light.  However, it is our ability to heal, restore our light and want to love again that is the testament of our soul courage and resilience - and the most important soul work we will ever do.

In peace...............Margie